Protecting Your Mental Health by Spotting Inappropriate Therapy Practices
When seeking help from a therapist, it’s important to remember that they are human and can make mistakes. However, in some cases, therapists can cross the line into inappropriate or even abusive behavior. Knowing the difference between a simple mistake and harmful actions is crucial to protect your mental health.
What Is Good Therapy?
Good therapy should help you understand your behaviors, emotions, and past experiences. It should be a safe space where you can explore your thoughts and feelings without fear. Therapists should be empathetic, challenging you in a supportive way to help you grow and heal.
Common Mistakes Therapists Make
Therapists, like anyone else, can make mistakes. These might include:
- Pushing too hard to gain insight
- Forgetting important details occasionally
- Making off-hand remarks that might come across as dismissive
- Showing defensiveness during difficult conversations
These mistakes are often not intentional and can be opportunities for growth in the therapy relationship. A good therapist will acknowledge these mistakes, take responsibility, and work with you to repair any damage.
Inappropriate but Not Abusive Behavior
Sometimes, therapists might behave inappropriately without crossing into abuse. These situations can include:
- Being more of a friend than a professional
- Always agreeing with you instead of challenging your thoughts
- Frequently giving advice instead of helping you explore your feelings
- Lacking boundaries, such as letting sessions run over or sharing too much personal information
While these behaviors are not abusive, they are unprofessional and may not help you achieve the growth and healing you seek.
Recognizing Abusive Therapy
Abusive therapy can be harder to spot, especially if you’ve experienced abuse in the past. Some signs of an abusive therapist include:
- Making you feel bad about yourself during sessions
- Ignoring or dismissing your feelings
- Manipulating or controlling your thoughts and behaviors
- Insisting that you follow their opinions without room for disagreement
- Isolating you from your support system, such as friends and family
If your therapist engages in these behaviors, it may be time to seek help elsewhere.
How to Know if Something Is Wrong
If you often feel uncomfortable or unsafe with your therapist, trust your instincts. You should be able to discuss any concerns you have with them, and they should be open to taking responsibility for any issues. If they frequently shift the blame onto you or make you feel that your feelings are invalid, this is a red flag.
What to Do if You Suspect Abuse
If you believe your therapist is abusive, it’s important to take action to protect yourself. Consider finding a new therapist who respects your boundaries and helps you feel safe and supported. Remember, therapy is about your healing, not the therapist’s ego.
References:
- Mad in America: A platform discussing psychiatry and its treatments.
- “Is Cutting Off Your Family Good Therapy?” – New York Times article highlighting controversial therapy practices.
